Our three churches: St. Mary’s, Standon, All Saints, Little Munden and St. Catherine’s, Sacombe are all part of the St. Alban’s Diocese within the Church of England. We are united in name and the desire to welcome every person, young and older, into our wonderful community minded church families. Our hope is to help everyone discover who Jesus is, and then to grow in understanding and faith. We have beautiful church buildings, a fantastic Benefice Choir, various styles of worship, partnerships with two excellent Church of England Schools, and a clear Bible based ministry.
Driving across the A10 roundabout from Dane End today, my car suddenly cut out. I managed to coast across the roundabout but soon came to an abrupt standstill. Like so many of us these days, I don't have time for things to go wrong. This newsletter piece had to be written; a sermon for tomorrow to be finished, and here I am waiting as countless cars race by. I’ve resorted to typing my newsletter piece into my iPhone with hazard warning lights flashing and misty windows! We buried my sister yesterday. A sad but beautifully uplifting service as we celebrated her life. She was inspirational, my big sister, always fun and full of life, but now she's gone. I miss her.
I’ve been stuck on this roundabout for nearly two hours now. I’m trying to work out what I can learn from a moment like this? Stopping to think is not something I often do…… it seems as if the clocks have all stopped and nothing will ever be the same again. When things once important seem less so, and what really matters is to be found and cherished. Like so many, I cannot imagine life without my wife Jill and our children, but my brother-in-law Paul has just begun a very different life that some of you already understand. Stuck on this roundabout I am resolving to find more time for the most precious things in my life.
Will you find time to think of God? My sister had many questions, but struggled if I’m honest, to find all the answers. However, for the last week of her life she grasped a ‘holding cross’ tightly in her hand. I felt God was always near to her. The one who shines the sun upon us; who inspires our 'hopeless' moments that we might stop and remember what matters most. Soon a friend, who is very busy in his day, will stop what he is doing to help me. I imagine my desperate phone call arrived when he least needed it, but he said yes to helping me. I will never forget those who say yes to helping me when I most need it. I am certain that God always hears our prayers and He sends people to help us every day and sends us to help others on the other days.
I wonder what kind of encouragement you need today. On two Sundays in November, remembering will be central to our church life. At 3pm on Sunday 6th November at St. Mary's we have our annual ‘Service of Memories’. A chance to remember loved ones who have died recently or a long time ago but are still central in our thoughts. Why not come and let us read out their name and light a candle in their memory? Then on Sunday 13th at 10.45am, our Remembrance Service at St. Mary's will take centre stage with our Uniform Groups and wider community sharing in this thankful service. You will be warmly welcomed as always to this service or to our remembrance services at All Saints (9.15am) or St Catherine’s (3pm).
Alan Comfort, Rector
If you love sport, this past summer has been heavenly. Even the expected failure of the England football team could not detract from the remarkable achievement of Chris Coleman and his passionate Wales team; the wonderful success of Andy Murray at Wimbledon; Mo Farah, Jason Kenny, Laura Trott and many others and their Olympic glory; and last but not least the Para-Olympic hero’s from Rio with many new and extraordinary stories being written.
Seeing the joyful face of success is inspiring, but the disappointed faces of those who do not achieve their dreams stay in our minds don’t they? Do you remember Barcelona 1992 and one of the most moving moments in Olympic history? Derek Redmond the British 400m runner and great hope for a medal reached the 150m mark narrowly ahead in his semi-final race; when suddenly, devastatingly, he fell to the ground as if he had been shot, having suffered a cruel hamstring injury. All those years of hard work, focussed on this one moment and now his dream was over. Despite the pain he struggled back to his feet and began to hobble around the track, determined to complete his race. At 200m a man ran from the crowd, it was his father. As soon as he recognised his Father he wept uncontrollably as they struggled towards the finish line to the cheers of a packed Olympic Stadium. Why not google Derek Redmond and you will find it hard to hold back the tears I assure you!
May I make a simple faith connection: this is such a vivid picture of what our heavenly father is like when we too are struggling; when everything seems to be going wrong, and answers seem difficult to find. Just as Redmond’s Father came to help his son, so our heavenly father stoops down to help us through the storms and struggles of our lives. He doesn’t force his way into our lives, but He comes as we invite Him. Yes we can invite Jesus to be by our side even as we read this article? Perhaps you think Jesus might help others but never you? As you ponder the question I’m sure this famous and much loved poem might help change your mind; ‘Footprints in the Sand’ by Mary Stevenson: ‘One night I dreamed I was walking along the beach with the Lord. Many scenes from my life flashed across the sky.
In each scene I noticed footprints in the sand. Sometimes there were two sets of footprints, other times there was one only.
This bothered me because I noticed that during the low periods of my life, when I was suffering from anguish, sorrow or defeat, I could see only one set of footprints, so I said to the Lord, “You promised me Lord, that if I followed you, you would walk with me always. But I have noticed that during the most trying periods of my life there has only been one set of footprints in the sand. Why, when I needed you most, have you not been there for me?”
The Lord replied, “The years when you have seen only one set of footprints, my child, is when I carried you.” ‘
Alan Comfort, Rector
What would a church service need to be like for you to want to come? Quiet and reflective; just as it was when you were growing up; informal and fun; interesting; relevant; formal and structured; choir led; led by a music group; Bible based; great for children; predictable; unpredictable; powerful; Spirit led? A service that contained all the above and left everyone happy would be perfect. Just in case you’re looking for that perfect church remember what the great church minister Charles Spurgeon once said; “The day we find the perfect church, it becomes imperfect the moment we join it.”
Nicky Gumbel, the Vicar of Holy Trinity Brompton Church in London, and beautiful inspirer of faith reminds us what church is really all about; ”Church is not an organisation you join; it is a family where you belong, a home where you are loved, and a hospital where you find healing." No matter the style of worship, that’s the kind of church I want to be a part of and aspire to lead!
Our churches are not perfect, but I am certain you will find beautiful worship often led by our wonderful Benefice choir, a genuine welcome, the familiarity of the Anglican Service, space to think, relevant Bible teaching, and a real sense of community. We believe what we do is lovely, but we do recognise what we love is of a certain style and not everyone enjoys the same style. With this in mind, our combined churches have committed to developing a ‘younger’ element to our worship in terms of age range and worship experience. We started with Messy Church in Roger de Clare School back in April 2015, and now feel ready for Messy Church to evolve into ‘St. Mary’s at the School.’ This will take place at Roger de Clare School from 4.45-6pm on Sunday’s in the same time slot Messy Church filled, but be aimed at a much broader audience. The worship will be very informal in style; a contemporary music style with up to date christian music; our amazing Messy Church style children’s ministry will be central where our children engage with the Bible theme through many different activities; being joined by and sharing this experience with their parents/family after the adults have had the space, if they wish, to interact with a 15 minute talk aimed at inspiring their faith. Those who come without children will have the opportunity to discuss the talk and encourage one another in the space that follows. Why not come and give it a go? Our first Sunday is 4th September at 4.45pm starting with our usual refreshments and cake. Just come. (Although Sunday afternoon is something new for our churches, it is still part of our one church programme. With this in mind, every fourth Sunday of the month (25th Sept), 'St. Mary’s at the School’ will join the 10.45am service at St. Mary’s Church with NO Sunday afternoon service that day. Messy Church activities will take place as per usual as we bring two parts of our church community together. This is all very exciting as we all move forward together.)
Let me finish by referring back to the Nicky Gumbel quote I started with. Most of us don’t need another organisation to join but a family to belong to. A place that makes a difference, where finding Jesus helps us make sense of the challenges we all face in this life. That’s the church I go to. Come and join us.
Alan Comfort - Rector
In June, my daughter was married at St. Mary’s Standon - the most glorious occasion with hundreds of family and friends celebrating with us. With conviction they both said their vows, ‘for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, till death us do part.’ No small thing for the groom in particular, as his future father-in-law (me) was taking the service, but you could tell they both believed and meant every word they were saying.
I wish things were always as black and white as this. In Matthew 5 v 37 Jesus tells us: ‘All you need to say is simply 'Yes' or 'No'; anything beyond this comes from the evil one.’ Being truthful, which means believing and then doing what you say, is something we understand and in most cases can choose to fulfil. At times this can be costly and often not easy. As a young man and before I committed my life to following Jesus, it seemed easier to tell lies at crucial moments. Once, having ignored a curfew whilst playing for the England Youth team in Norway, I persistently lied about what I had been doing as if lying would help me. It didn’t! Becoming a Christian marked a desire in me to change, the turning point of my life.
However, telling the truth is not where this story ends. Most of us believe we are being truthful but telling the truth and being right are not quite the same are they? As a younger man I always thought I was right, now as the years pass I wonder if I am ever right! Let me explain what I mean: my wife Jill often asks me what I think of a dress she is trying on; my reply might include asking her what she thinks, and then to reply accordingly. I have no idea really. Am I telling the truth? I am telling the truth but I have no idea what is right.
The EU question was not quite the same as commenting on a dress but equally challenging. By the time you read this newsletter we will have voted to ‘remain in’ or ‘leave’ the EU. It has been incredible watching clever people like David Cameron and Boris Johnson and many others come up with completely different answers to the same questions. Are you confident you voted the right way? It was Solomon in the Old Testament who could ask God for anything, who asked for wisdom. The wisdom to listen more deeply and get things right. I remain uncertain about my EU vote but I know that following Jesus and being inspired to live and love as He did is right! What do you think?
Alan Comfort, Rector
On 22nd May just passed, George Best would have celebrated his 70th Birthday. His was an extraordinary life of brilliance and destruction; an unforgettable football career at Manchester United strangled by an out of control drinking addiction that eventually took his life in 2005. Many people think, with good reason I might add, ‘a leopard never changes its spots’. Meaning, we can’t change what we are. For example, if we’ve supported Chelsea since we were small, like me, we can’t change. If we’re likely to let people down, we always will. If we’re weak willed, we’ll give up eventually. If we’re addicted to drink or drugs, we always will be. ‘A leopard never changes its spots’.
Do you believe this? The evidence suggests this is often true, but is it always true? Is it impossible for us to change? I am convinced the answer to this question is NO, but we need to believe change must happen for change to occur.
The actor Robert Downey Jr. grew up in a home "surrounded by drugs”. He frequently did drugs with his father, actor and filmmaker Robert Downey Sr. He recalled drinking white wine when he was just eight years old. After stints in rehab and even prison as an adult, Downey Jr. finally turned his life around in 2003 after an intervention and a successful stint in rehab. He has been clean and sober ever since.
We celebrate every victory like Downey Jr., but needing to change is not limited to life threatening addictions. Most of us have character flaws that frequently pull us down. For many of us, finding the strength to overcome can prove impossible, but God promises to help us if we ask. The Pentecost promise is that God sends His Holy Spirit to be our helper, to live in us. In the New Testament we find Saul, part of the religious elite of his time, highly trained, a brilliant man, who hated Christians and sought to have them arrested and even killed; but God met Saul on the Damascus road as recorded in Acts Chapter 9 and his life was changed. Zacchaeus, the tax collector, met Jesus in Luke Chapter 19 and his mean life that caused hardship for so many was changed. A faith in God makes change possible.
What about you and me? I’m not sure what challenges you face, but I do know this: if we want to change, God can help us and give us a reason to be changed at the same time. Isn’t that one of the keys to all this? We need a reason to be different. What’s yours?
Alan Comfort - Rector
I am writing this on a very special day; Thursday 21st April 2016, the 90th birthday of Queen Elizabeth II. I realise not everyone feels exactly the same about our Royal Family, but it’s surely difficult to find fault with the longest serving British Monarch now in the 64th year of her reign. Personally, I feel privileged and proud to say that she is our Queen as well as The Supreme Governor of the Church of England. Perhaps you will permit me a few moments to talk of her faith in God, which I believe is both unexpected and inspiring.
Unexpected because many blessed people who have everything they could ever want in this life often live as if they don’t need anything else, but our Queen has throughout her long life honoured and depended upon God. On the occasion of her 21st birthday in 1947 she openly declared her need for; ‘God to help me to make good my vow.’ We have also grown used to her inspirational Christmas Day speeches when she speaks openly of her trust in God and the Lord Jesus. In 2015, she said this: ‘For me, the life of Jesus Christ, the Prince of Peace, whose birth we celebrate today, is an inspiration and an anchor in my life; a role-model of reconciliation and forgiveness.’
As we give thanks for her reign amongst us, our churches will be holding a special Choral Evensong on Sunday 5th June 6.30pm at St. Mary’s Standon to celebrate her life and faith. Please come and join us.
That word ‘anchor’ is very important and central to what a faith in God can bring. To anchor something is to hold it secure and steady when the storms come. We know a ship not anchored during a storm, will be swept far away at best and more likely destroyed on the rocks at worst. The tests and storms of this life are no less threatening and powerful as the sad deaths of Victoria Wood and the singer Prince confirmed in this past week. A faith in God not only offers an answer to these storms, as I believe it does, but is a tangible strength holding firm during such storms. As we invite God to ‘help’ us in our lives and to ‘forgive’ our failures through Jesus, God instils a strength in you and me that anchors to everything that is good and of God. The bible calls this the Holy Spirit that comes to live on the inside of our lives. It comes upon our invitation but is of God’s creation. Why not ask God to give you this strength? If you want to find out more, why not ask?
Alan Comfort - Rector
Earlier this week I nearly had a breakdown. I was driving back from Saffron Walden to Standon when the steering of my car dramatically changed. It felt like a puncture but my tyres were fine. Anxiously, I drove on towards Standon praying about the car and fretting over the School Governors’ meeting I was late for. What should I do? Go to someone who could help, I thought. So I drove to a family, new to our churches, who live in Standon and he is a mechanic. Their kindness was overwhelming. A lift to the Governors’ meeting was followed by the loan of a car, and then the assurance my car would be fixed the following day. I was so grateful to God for such special people in our community.
I was particularly grateful because I knew my car would be fixed. This got me thinking; imagine if the kind man who took my car returned it with exactly the same fault the next day? Such a thought is ridiculous of course, but let me explain; I was thinking of the experience that many of us have when we go to church. We sing a couple of hymns, listen to a talk and some prayers, meet some pleasant people, but often go home exactly the same as when we arrived. We don’t expect or desire to be changed, but meeting with God should change and help us. That’s what faith in God is all about, or it could be. Not leaving us the same but helping us to be different. Let me give you a couple examples from the Bible: Jesus said in Matthew chapter11 verse 28, ‘Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.’ These are not simply words, they describe something we can experience when we ask Jesus to help us. As we come close to God, He draws near to us and through the gift of His Holy Spirit gives us a ‘rest’ that nothing else can give. Do you need that kind of ‘rest’? Jeremiah chapter 31 verse 34 says: ‘for I (God) will forgive their iniquity and their sin I will remember no more’. No matter how frustrated you are with yourself and the things you have done, or how messed up your life feels, God says He will forgive you and remember your sin no more. This is the Good Friday miracle, our sin wiped away because of Jesus’ death on the cross, so we can live new lives. Why not ask God to help you today? Why not join one of our church activities and expect to be changed and helped?
Alan Comfort - Rector
Our soon to be married daughter returned home for a few days this week. Edinburgh is a long way away, and thankfully she seems so very happy, but forgive my rather grumpy ‘I’m losing a daughter’ moment; her life seems less connected to ours than ever before. Of course this is to be expected, but letting go and trusting another is more difficult than I imagined. Change is never easy is it? Our news is rightly full of another possible and huge change with the upcoming EU referendum question. David Cameron has been earnestly negotiating a better deal for the UK, striving to convince us that staying in the EU will be better than leaving. Has he convinced you? I’m sure you have your opinion in this but crunch time is coming when deciding ‘in’ or ‘out’ seems so final, as our Scottish friends know well from recent experience. Not fifty shades of grey, but black or white, in or out?
Direct questions that demand definite answers are more awkward now than I remember. The ‘yes’ or ‘no’ answer is more commonly replaced by the ‘I believe’ answer, meaning there is no right answer, just opinions, and mine is as good as anyone else’s. Yet, ‘I believe’ answers too often fail to answer the important questions. Take Easter as the perfect example; the question Easter poses is not whether God loves us, the question is whether we love God, ‘yes’ or ‘no’? The Easter message sees God offer everything for us. He doesn’t place the weight of expectation on us, He has taken that fully upon Himself. He allowed His Son Jesus, an innocent man, to be wrongfully arrested, then beaten, convicted, despised, rejected, crucified, to die an horrific death, to wash away the worst of you and me and the world around us. Such sacrifice and forgiveness are often too difficult to comprehend, but through this sacrifice God offers us all the possibility of a new beginning, a second chance, new hope. The question is not whether God loves us, He has already answered; the question is whether our response to His love is ‘yes’ or ‘no’, whether we will trust in what Jesus did for us on that first Easter or not. Matthew 7 v 13 says; ‘Enter through the narrow gate; for the gate is wide and the way is broad that leads to destruction, and there are many who enter through it.’ I prefer the ‘I believe’ answers, when my opinion is as valid as any other, but some questions only allow ‘yes’ or ‘no’ answers. What will it be?
Alan Comfort - Rector
I’m sure it is very apparent that I love my role as Rector of our Benefice. Sharing in the good but also the sad moments of people’s lives is a great privilege. Recently I made one of my regular visits to our church schools, a high point of any week. What great schools they are. Yes, I am a Governor, an enthusiastically welcomed visitor and biased, but they are very special places none the less. I believe it is vitally important to celebrate the successes around us that make this a unique place to live. The children are delightful, hungry to learn and talented, as the various Christmas productions recently showed and they are taught by a wonderful team under inspired leadership. Thank you.
With the mood of celebration spilling over and the certain knowledge that Michael Baker would not wish me to write this, I still must. The achievement of one of ours is ours to celebrate. Michael and Sarah Baker have lived in Standon for many years, bringing up their family here. A consistent and integral part of St. Mary’s Church, Standon and great supporters of the churches in our Benefice. News broke in the New Year’s honours list that Michael Baker QC had been awarded a CBE for his services to the administration of justice and charity work. Yes, our own Mike Baker. We are so very proud of your achievement.
Well, let me finish with a great flourish. On Sunday 21st February at our 10.45am service at St. Mary’s, we look forward to welcoming the Bishop of St. Alban’s the Rt. Revd. Dr. Alan Smith, to lead our Confirmation Service. This will be a great celebration, not simply because the Bishop is coming, but because several candidates from within our local area will stand before the Bishop and publicly acknowledge that they believe in God and wish to follow Jesus Christ in their day to day lives. Finding our way in this life is not getting any easier as we endeavour to cope with personal sadness or challenging circumstances. Secular answers are getting louder and often dismissive of a deep and thoughtful trust in God; but deep within our souls, lasting peace and security is often found by those who discover a relationship with God. For me, this moment came some thirty years ago. My struggles back then do not compare with much of what I’ve seen as a Vicar since, with my biggest concern being what new car to buy as a young professional footballer. Yet, even then I knew something was missing in my life that I needed to find. Whether we’ve experienced sadness no one could really understand, or simply know that life should be more than it is, it seems to me that the same desire to find that which is missing continues to exist. Why not come and support those who are finding their way? Why not come and discover this for yourself?
Alan Comfort, Rector